How to Talk to Women - A Quick 1-2-3 Punch to Use in Any Situation

Copious amounts of men around the globe want to know how to talk to women. They want to know what to say, how to say it, and when to say it. Most men that I meet in daily life want to be spoon fed pick up lines or want to know exactly what to say to women. But a vast majority of men want to know how to get the ball rolling. They want to learn how to break the ice and how to build comfort so that the conversation flows naturally.

In other words, most men want to know how to handle the initial approaching of a woman and then the first 30 seconds that follows. The number one rule in learning how to talk to women is follow the principle of mastery: that is you have to practice and practice and practice. Simply put, you have to talk to women. In order to do that you need to learn how to break the ice. There are many schools of thought on how to do this. In fact, I've seen people develop flow charts and come up with some very esoteric theories on why their way is the best. I usually grin at those because you'll never hear me say mine are the best because the "best" does not exist.

Human beings and their social interactions contain so many variables that no one can ever come up with a paint-by-numbers system that is the "best" and that would apply to everyone. It just doesn't exist. The second thing you want to learn is how to break the ice. This past weekend I approached over 3 dozen women at one of the local beach piers by simply saying "hey, you have a unique look, I knew I had to come over and talk to you and see what you were like."

I had one really cute brunette try and test me by replying with "oh yeah, what's so unique about me?". I deflected it by saying it "that's for me to know and for you to find it". I paused for a couple of seconds then I let out a alow grin. She knew I was playing around and she followed suit. Remember, when talking to women it's not so much what you say, but in how you say it. In other words, mindset has a lot to do with it. For example, if you had a younger female cousin would you have any qualms or nervousness in walking up to her and talking to her? Of course not! Why? Because she's your bratty little cousin right? That's what your mind perceives, yet when you see a hot girl your perception changes. In reality, it should not change.

Some men will approach a girl and gently tap her on the shoulder to her attention. Hey, whatever works. And you will definitely find out what works by going out into the field and testing this out. During the first 30 seconds in most general approaches you want to get the woman's attention. A simple "hi" or "hey, what's up?" will work wonders. See, it does not have to fit into some kind of complicated chart or graph? Then you can you ask them what they are up to or where they are going or why they have that "look" on their face. When they ask "what look?" you can simply reply with "the look that says I'm bored out of my mind and I'm about to meet a really exciting person!"

You would be amazed at how women respond to things like this when you are genuine and friendly. Not to be confused with being overly nice or by acting in any way, shape or form, that puts her on a pedestal. You should always act like you are her equal in every way. So during you first 30 seconds, simply say "hi" or "what's up?" then ask her or the group what they are up to. You will be amazed at how much women will open up if you give them half the chance. Now go forth and make at least one approach a day for a week, then bump it up to two, and continue increasing it until you no longer have the fear of walking up to a stranger.
By Rod Cortez