If you are having trouble bringing your girl to orgasm, then you are not alone. Plenty of men have this issue but they hide it with stories about how good they are in bed. If you aren't able to get your girl to orgasm, and you are constantly hearing stories from your friends about how good they are, chances are they are in the same boat as you.
It is difficult for a man to know what a woman is feeling and liking unless she openly talks about it. A lot of women are comfortable with their sexuality so they can't direct their men in the right direction. This leaves a lot of guys lost and a lot of women sexually frustrated. If your girl isn't going to talk to you and tell you what she likes, then how are you supposed to know?
There are some helpful hints that you can learn that will help you to learn the best way to make a girl orgasm. First, a man needs to know about what kinds of orgasms a woman can have. A woman can either have an orgasm from clitoral stimulation, g-spot stimulation or both combined. Now that you know what types of orgasms a woman can have, how can you achieve them?
What most men don't know is that a woman's orgasm is a lot more than just touch. A woman's emotions and mental state factor into whether or not she is going to have an orgasm. If anything is distracting her or making her upset, then she can't let go and achieve orgasmic levels of pleasure. The best way to make a girl orgasm is to take your time, listen to her body and make sure that she is in a completely, comfortable environment.
For a lot of men, the female orgasm is so confusing. Men are used to working with such simple pieces of equipment so a woman's area is extremely intimidating. You want to please your woman every time you have sex so she can start to enjoy it more. You want her to crave your touch throughout the day and beg for you to please her when you see her at night.
By Hugh Benson
In a lot of relationships it is becoming increasingly more and more important that the man be able to sexually satisfy the women that he is with.
As a man, if you don't know how to please your woman in the bedroom it can lead to a lot of frustration and less sex which ultimately leads to even more frustration.
In this article, we will go over some excellent tips for pleasing your lover that will practically guarantee that she climaxes each and every night.
How To Make Sure She Climaxes Every Night - Excellent Tips For Pleasing Your Lover!
The biggest and definitely one of the most important tips that you must follow if you want to make sure that she climaxes every night is making sure that she has at least two or three mind blowing orgasms before you even begin to consider having your first one.
Reason being is if you are like must men once you climax for the most part you are done and when you combine this with the fact that it takes woman much longer to climax than men, you are much better off if she has her mind blowing orgasms first.
Next, since we already discussed the fact that she needs to have her orgasms first and the fact that it takes her longer to climax a way to speed up this process and increase the intensity of her orgasms is by spending a lot of quality time on sexual foreplay.
Sexual foreplay at least when you are trying to make sure that she is going to have a mind blowing orgasm is more about focusing on her less sexual parts, rather than moving in to the most obvious of sexual places.
What this means is instead of focusing on her breast, vagina and clitoris focus on the other areas of her body in a highly sensual and erotic way.
For the most part you will be able to tell when it is time to move on to her more sexual parts as her pelvis will begin to lift upwards in an effort to get you to stimulate her clitoris and vagina.
Once you begin to notice this "pelvic tilt" now is the time to apply a high quality female stimulating arousal gel like G Female Stimulating Gel underneath the hood of her clitoris while at the same time massaging it in.
At this point, especially if you did a good job of getting her extremely aroused during sexual foreplay she will quite often have her first mind blowing orgasm.
However, no matter what you want to continue to lightly stimulate her clitoris in any way that both her body and you see fit.
From this point on if your goal is in making sure that she has a mind blowing orgasm before you do you are going to want to continue to stimulate her clitoris in a variety of different ways.
After she has had at least two or three orgasms, now is the time that you can begin getting into the kind of sexual positions that you want to get into so that you both can have a climatic finish together.
Trey Osborne is considered by many to be one of the leading experts on sexual health and enhancement.
By Trey Osborne
A lot of guys think that they know what a multiple orgasm entails. But, in reality, they have probably only explored the easy simultaneous orgasms. There is one method that will almost make your woman pass out, if you have what it takes to pull it off.
The skill that will separate you from all other men
To truly be craved by your woman, you need to do things to her that no other man has done. And this will create reactions that she has never felt before in her life. If you can pull it off, you will be in a class all by yourself. And only if she teaches your methods to another man, will she ever experience anything like this again.
The most pleasurable move that a man can ever do involves massaging the G-spot for over 10 minutes and creating in excess of 15 orgasms. This may sound a bit odd, or even impossible, but it will completely immobilize your lover, and she will not be in control of her body at all. Basically, with your fingers or some implement your are going to massage the Grafenberg spot for over ten minutes. You will produce the first set of climaxes, allow her to rest for about 30 seconds, and the being the process again until she is exhausted.
She is not going to be expecting you to keep going after she has one. Because most men don't even know it is possible to keep producing them over and over again. What begins to happen is that each climax after the one before it is easier to produce. So you basically bring her into a state of repeat multiples, where she is powerless to resist your methods. Her brain will begin releasing chemicals that will bond her to you and put her into a state of ecstasy.
By Sara Claretti
Not too many men are aware of the fact that you can actually give a full blown orgasm from simply the breasts. Discover the secrets that will put you a step above all other men.
The positioning of the scenario
There are two positions that you can use to pull off this amazing move. The first is getting yourself directly under her to accept her chest. This will make her breasts extremely sensitive because all of the blood will be rushing to her mammary glands. The down side to this is that the man usually has to pull his neck up to begin the experience. If you don't have a strong neck it will get very painful. However, your woman will most likely really love to try this with or without intercourse.
Perhaps the easiest position is to lay on top of your lover and descend onto her chest. This allows both partners to really relax fully. However, if the man is much heavier than the woman, it could be a problem.
The actual technique
There are a million different way to get her to a throbbing climax. But, we will explore the most effective. What you want to do is concentrate on the nipple and the tissue immediately surrounding it. Use a nice and gentle circling motion. Generally, the tongue will get tired before she is ready to climax. In order to prevent this, you want to suck the nipple and the flesh into your mouth and use very small strokes between your tongue and your upper lip. You should be creating a suction. Practice on your finger to get the sensation down, before you practice on her.
To become a better lover many men are doing these penis exercises to get up to 3 inches bigger and women are learning the art of talking dirty to drive their men wild
By Sara Claretti
Need to put a little heat back into your sex life but don't have any sex ideas for couples that come to mind? Don't worry you are not alone. Many people would like to have a better sex life but really have no idea where to start and are often times a little shy when the subject is brought up. Take the time and learn to overcome your shyness and the ideas will come. Communication is the key to help broaden the sexual horizons between you and your partner.
The majority of couples who have been together for any length of time will be the first to admit that they would like to have a better sex life but most can't seem to get over the embarrassment of talking about sex. Any new sex ideas for couples is just that , for couples. This means you need to be able to talk to your partner if you have any hopes of introducing some new ideas.
Nobody knows you better than you and you need to be able to share this with your partner. Once one of you takes the initiative to open up the doors to discussing sex you will both feel much more comfortable and at ease in discussing some new sex ideas for couples that will help put the fire back into your relationship.
Some great ideas include learning some new positions, introducing some toys, perhaps you have never watched an adult film together. Whatever your case may be, put on your thinking hats as there are many ideas out there for you and your partner to explore and enjoy.
By Howard Frank
Do you want to increase your sexual stamina? Wait. Let me answer that for you...YES. In my opinion (as well as most women's) you can never last long enough. There is no better way to ensure that you can satisfy your woman's sexual appetite to the fullest extent. Here are some methods which will help to enhance your sexual stamina. Read on.
Last Longer in Bed With These Amazing Tips - Proven Ways to Make Sex Better For Both of You!
1. Do the Exercises
Lasting longer in bed is all about strengthening the right muscles. You heard that right.
Learn the proper methods of strengthening your PC muscles and you will be able to last as long as you want. All it takes is a little effort for some maximum results.
2. Regulate Your Breathing
You will begin to breathe very shallowly and fast as you get closer and closer to finishing. Slow your breathing and take deep breathes. This is actually a very effective method of settling yourself down and prolonging the sexual experience.
3. Do NOT Stop and Start
This is the method where you stop and squeeze the penis until you feel your excitement go down. The problem with this is that you are stopping the stimulation for her. This is especially worse when she is about to orgasm herself.
Instead, just regulate the speed of your thrusts and pace yourself. You don't need to go fast and hard for the entire time. Switch it up and keep yourself at a controlled pace. Mixing in slow thrusts with fast thrusts will actually be more pleasurable for her as well.
By Ryan Harten
How can you learn to make a guy fall in love with you? What would it be like if you could get this guy you are seeing to really burn for you and make you the most important person in his life? Are you hoping that there is actually something which you can do to make this guy fall in love so that you don't have to wait anymore? If so, then you are about to learn the quickest way to make a guy fall in love with you...
If only it were as easy as getting a man aroused sexually. But, this is something which you are really going to have to work on. You see, lust is simple and easy and you can get a man reeled in pretty quick if you know how to push the right buttons. Therefore, it can be frustrating when you try to get that same guy to fall in love with you and find that you have your work cut out for you.
So here is the first thing which you have to do: Slow down. Temper the sexuality if you are already having sex with him. If you are not, hold off on it until you have a very strong emotional bond. If this sounds like a lot of work it is really not as much as it seems. You just have to take the right approach. Men are much slower to form the emotional bonds which lead them to fall in love. Therefore, you are going to have to give these bonds time to form.
Think of making a man fall in love like planting something and trying to get it to grow. You have two choices: You can force it and wear yourself and the plant out in the process or you can let it happen at its own pace. If you try to make a man fall in love with you he is going to feel pressured and move away.
If you take a step back and let things move at his pace you will find that he is headed in the same direction which you are. The difference is that he is moving slower. And the more you try to speed him up, the slower he is going to move and the more frustrated you are going to be.
Finally, enjoy the time you are spending together and view the falling in love as more of an ongoing process then an event. This may not make sense, but that is because men do not operate the same way as you do and no amount of coaxing is going to change that.
If you want to make a guy fall in love with you, slow down and focus on bonding and becoming friends. It will not be long before he commits to you alone.
By Tina L. Jones
Anyone who truly wants to experience love has to be ready to delve into ALL of love, the two sides of love. The one side you dream and fantasize about that is readily described in romantic novels, as well as the side that rarely gets mentioned, the side that encompasses unconditional love.
So what is love? Like anything in life, love is composed of it's opposites, to be what it is. Love, a feeling, an emotion, is probably the most written about topic of all times. Love, to many, is the feeling of God. The feeling of the Divine. The feeling that says "all is perfect, all is beautiful, all is well."
If everything in life must have it's opposite to make it complete, to make it known, then love is also vulnerability, insecurity, and jealousy, for without these aspects of love, the feelings of being "perfect, beautiful, Divine and well", could not be felt. Identical to the thought that if we never had night, we could not experience day, if we never knew insecurity we'd never experience the security that love can offer. They must go hand in hand.
In my practice, I often share with clients that if they truly want to experience the deepest of love than they must be willing to also experience the deepest pain, loss, vulnerability and hurt that this quest for love may offer. Many of these emotions, the "other" side of love, can surface if we delve into the concept of unconditional love. Unconditional love is the other part of love that most of us give lip service to, but never really have the intention of practicing. To love someone unconditionally means exactly what it says, without conditions. I love you even if "you don't do as I ask, don't make the money I'd like you to make, don't have the body I want you to have, or don't communicate with me the way I want you to communicate". In other words, I will love you at the deepest level regardless of what you do or do not do.
When we start to love someone at this level, we can be assured that for a while, it will scare the heck out of us. We release our ego through the practice of unconditional love and move to a place of pure acceptance. We toss out the fantasy of having a partner that falls into a certain role, and accept the human side of their existence. This is where we often experience the dark side of our own emotions, fears and insecurities as we allow our partner the space to become their own person without limits or expectations. Again, the fantasy that we have created since childhood gets blasted away, and in it's place we become strong enough, and loving enough, to allow them to live the life they desire.
Within this union, real love can exist. Within this type of relationship, we experience the deepest love for ourselves as we allow our partner more space to grow than they ever could have imagined. When someone feels this type of love coming from you, the will often respond with the same depth in return. The kind of depth that will awaken a new sense of ecstasy within you that may just blow the doors off of anything you could have imagined.
The best way that I have seen this happen is when two people come together and make a conscious decision to discuss this path of unconditional love as a goal that they would like to share. They can then regularly talk honestly about how they are each doing, in a non confrontational and supportive way. While it can also occur without consciousness, the chances of it lasting at this level becomes more of a challenge.
So, now the question lies with you. What do you want when it comes to love? Are you ready to experience the two sides of love in order to reach the zenith of Divine Union or unconditional love? Or, do you want to continue to hold onto the "fantasy love, fantasy partner" that our society continues to promote as realistic to obtain even though we know it is not?
I'd love for you to make a conscious decision today, and then be willing to live with your notion of love. On the one hand is the superficial love filled with shallowness and disappointment from a lover that could never rise to your expectations. Or on the other, is a lover that feels free as a bird, and offers the same freedom in return as you both fly into uncharted territories. A love relationship that offers a connection unknown to most, carried by a current of vulnerability that will stretch you beyond your own wildest dreams. A love that guarantees a soul connection so deep when you make love, one that you could never have created in all of your dreams, even if all you had was time to dream.
Whatever you desire, so it shall be.
By David Essel
I often tell my online community that the way to attract your best love match is to know what you want and want it enough to climb a mountain and ask for it. What if you're not up for a mountain hike? Simply use this alternate strategy to place your cosmic order for love.
What is a cosmic order?
It is an energetic technique that taps into the abundant energy of the universe to realize your dreams. Everything in the universe is energy. Everything we experience through our senses and express in thoughts and actions is energy. We are energy transmitters and receivers in a universe of infinite energy.
Like attracts like. If you'd like to attract better things into your life, you can transmit better thoughts and actions. You can flip your energetic switch from negative, limiting thoughts and low vibrations toward a higher, positive frequency in order to realize your dreams.
Does it sound too easy? That may be incentive to give it a try and see how it works for you.
Here's how to place your cosmic order for love in 7 steps:
1. Know exactly what you want in your love match, and then make them real to you by visualizing them.
How important is physical appearance?
Jot down the characteristics you desire. Be specific about height, weight, eyes, hair color, body type, so that you recognize your match if you meet by chance or on an internet dating site.
Can you fall for someone who looks different than you imagined?
If you will look through the wrapper to explore the real gifts, you may be surprised by joy that stems from inner beauty and compatibility.
How do you identify the gifts that are a good fit with yours?
List the core values and common interests you seek in your love match. Must they share your hobby or special talent? What about kindness, honesty, joy, sense of humor, devotion to family, and passion for life and love? Jot down a detailed list of the best qualities you seek.
Rev up your best qualities so that your love match who possesses these qualities will be attracted to you like a love magnet. Do you feel ready to love and be loved unconditionally? If so, you're ready to take the next step.
2. Place your cosmic order for love
Go to your favorite spot in nature or indoors. Rev up your energy and enthusiasm as if you were climbing a mountain to reach the divine. Speak from your heart as you describe the wonderful qualities in your love match and then ask to meet them. Give thanks for all the love in your life, knowing how feelings of love and gratitude are frequencies that will attract your best love match.
3. Follow up your cosmic order with new actions
If you haven't met your love match doing what you were doing, it's time to change what you're doing for optimal results. Be bold. Learn new skills, expand your dating horizon and take new risks to meet your love match. Sign up for a matchmaking service or online dating site that unites singles seeking love across America and around the world.
4. Remain optimistic and positive
Be aware of your thoughts in each moment and vigilantly choose positive thoughts and attitudes that attract love.
5. Detach emotionally from the outcome
There's no need to be stressed if your best love match isn't arriving in your life as quickly as you desire. Remain focused on love and gratitude during your search for love, knowing that the dominant vibration always wins.
6. Give thanks and share your blessings
Keep a gratitude journal and write in it each night before bed so that you feel gratitude as you're drifting to sleep. Share your blessings without expecting anything in return, and you will attract a love match with the same generous, loving spirit.
7. Choose your love tests wisely
Waiting for a lightning bolt of love at first sight? Waiting for the earth to shake in your first kiss? How much time will you wait or waste on these unrealistic litmus tests for love?
Will you consider a smarter strategy? Let go of unrealistic Love Tests that no mere mortal could pass. Embrace love tests that lead to love. How? Stay focused on enhancing your strengths and best qualities and then choosing your best love match who shares and values them.
By Hadley Finch
Even though being in love is a universal thing there are a few details you need to know about how to say I love you.
People who enjoy listening to others saying nice things about them often think they are loved but according to how to say I love you, what you say is much less significant than HOW you say it. The following percentages have been identified by researchers on the art of knowing how to say I love you:
The words you say provide 7% of the impact, your tone of voice contributes 38%, and your body language as you say it makes up a huge 55% of communication.
WOW! Can you now see that simply saying, "I love you", even to someone who responds via auditory means, can only be a small part of how to say I love you?
These next few points on how to say I love you will help you with the next time you convey your love.
Your body must express an open posture, with your arms and legs uncrossed and palms facing out. This gives the signal that you are open and receptive.
To show you are interested, be wary of your eyes darting about the room because this will show the opposite. Your eyes should be softly looking upon the face of your lover.
These are also valid factors when knowing how to say I love you.
Your facial expression should be a soft smile for anything else does not express positive feelings.
Your tone of voice needs to be easy and relaxed, which shows warmth and comfort.
If your partner enjoys being touched, keep a comforting hand upon them as you speak your love and they will know it.
To really know how to say I love you keep the next points in mind.
Keep your partner's need for personal space present during communication, most people need it while some enjoy being close.
A much needed part of communication is the art of listening as this is as necessary as your speaking.
There is a technique called Active Listening where you repeat back to your partner what they just expressed to you. What this technique can do is to help you stay focused on what is being said instead of formulating a response in your mind too soon. This can be strange for the receiver at first so it is best to explain what you are doing.
Agree to work on this together and you will improve your ability to know when and how to say I love you.
By Glenn Smith
If you fall in love, one of the most difficult things will be trying to sustain that love when you and your beloved are living miles apart. As it is trying to make a relationship work is difficult and requires a lot of hard work, but the amount of work that goes into keeping a long distance relationship alive is even more.
Although many people believe that long distance relationships just cannot work, with that extra effort you can ensure that yours has a happy ever after ending. No doubt both partners in the relationship will have to overcome challenges but when you see that the other person is willing to go the distance, you will end up cherishing your partner and wanting to make this work.
Just like any other relationship, long distance relationships also involve two people who are equally interested in each others life, they care for each other and above all love each other. But this long distance love requires the two people to understand and accept; in a way it is like a test for their love.
For a long distance love to sustain itself and survive all the insecurities of not being able to see each other, the two partners have to be in constant touch and speak with each other as frequently as they can. In this type of relationship there is no going for movies together or talking a walk in the park. However, there are activities you can do to feel closer. You can play games with your partner over the internet, you can watch movies together by renting the same DVD, you can start for work at the same time, talk on the phone, send cards to each other, and send "just because" gifts. All these activities will ensure that the relationship works.
Communication, as mentioned earlier, is also extremely important. Modern technology has made this mode of talking so easy. You can use emails, digital pictures and web cams to close the distance. Just make sure that even when you are extremely busy, you take out at least 15 minutes of your time daily to talk and communicate with the person. This will show the person that you are thinking about and missing him or her.
In addition, trust is a vital ingredient in making long distance relationships successful. Without trust, the relationship is as good as doomed. If you opt for this type of relationship, you should be prepared to have complete faith and trust in your partner and he or she should return that trust and faith.
Remember the saying that even when separated by an ocean, the shortest distance between two hearts is love. This should give you enough motivation to sustain and make your relationship work.
By Pauline Go
We all have the need to love and be loved. Most of us have a healthy and loving relationships, be with friends, family or a special someone. We cherish these relationships and enjoy spending time with these people. We find activities to do together and basically there is mutual love and respect between us.
In fact, these relationships are so special that we are constantly, either consciously or unconsciously, looking for ways to strengthen the bonds. However, not everyone is so lucky. There are many people who are stuck in unhealthy and abusive relationships.
If any of you are in an abusive relationship, you must be feeling bad for yourself. In fact, people who are in these types of relationship never put words to their feelings. Abusive relationship is not always about physical abuse; it can be emotional and even sexual abuse. Sometimes just one partner is abusive and at times both are.
Usually no relationship starts out as abusive. The abuse starts after sometime when both partners seem comfortable together. It is not at all healthy to be in an abusive relationship and you should get out of it immediately.
Here are some tips on how to handle an abusive relationship:
• First of all, you should not be ashamed to speak to someone about what you are facing. You should talk to a person you trust and this person can be a parent, friend, counselor, doctor or teacher.
• Inform the person who is abusing you that you do not want to see him or her any more.
• If you are injured by the person, go immediately to the hospital for treatment. Ask the hospital to photograph your injuries so that you have a record.
• In addition, keep a journal with the date and time of the abuse. You may need this in future if the person keeps harassing you and you are forced to approach the police for help.
• If the person insists on following you around, do not hesitate to call 911 for help.
• In case of emergency, look for safe place like a crowded mall or a police station.
• Never walk home alone in the night. Always ask your friends to accompany you.
• There are many help lines that assist victims of abuse and you should not hesitate to call them for assistance, if required. Make sure you have the number always on you.
By Pauline Go
Our relationships play a big part in how we spend our lives on a daily basis. The way we think, we act and believe is undoubtedly influenced by our relationships. Keeping a healthy relationship is a lot harder than starting a new one. It starts in the definition of a good and healthy relationship. An old saying goes "a lasting good relationship is not looking at each other but gazing at the same direction together." Logically speaking, to be able to reach the same goal, two people must be in sync in what they want to achieve. They must be gazing at the same thing together. This will mean that sound relationships are not co-dependent, they are inter-dependent.
Co-dependence in a relationship means that one must exist so the other can. This kind of relationship might suffocate the people inside the relationship. This establishes that one needs the other to exist and this happens by giving that person the power to rule your life and your happiness. This belief only constitutes an imaginary perfect world where there is a perfect ending. In reality, people in love have diverse needs and ideologies.
These things must not be caged but rather be nourished because this is the basis of our individuality. Interdependence happens when we are confident and trusting of our partner. This will not be possible unless we trust ourselves and who we are. When we have no insecurities, we will be able to judge and think clearly and see the real situations without bias. Both you and your partner can lead a free and committed life without fear of suffocation and loss of individuality. Relationships entails a little bit of everything, it is not enough that love is there. One must realized that for a relationship to work, trust, teamwork and interdependence must be present.
By Emma-Louise Smith
Relationships are ideally unions that promote respect, love, and commitment between partners. If the relationship dynamic is a healthy one, both individuals can be free to grow and find fulfillment. However, if one or both partners bring serious personal issues in to the relationship, the dynamic can become skewed or toxic. Sometimes, in the interest of showing love, compassion, and tolerance toward a partner who is repeatedly unfaithful, has an untreated addiction, or has an abusive personality, the other partner may display signs of excessive tolerance that infringe upon healthy boundaries and cause him or her to lose sight of personal needs, desires, and hopes in the relationship. Here are 4 signs you might tolerate too much in your relationship:
1. You rationalize and/or minimize your partner's poor behavior to yourself. You compare your partner's behavior to other worse case scenarios, or make statements to yourself like, "At least he or she doesn't do THAT." While it is true you may be able to find more extreme examples of destructive behavior, it doesn't mean that what your partner is doing is acceptable or desirable.
2. You make excuses for, or deny your partner's bad behavior altogether in front of others. This attempt to hide what's being done might be motivated by your desire to protect your partner's reputation, and it may also stem from shame or embarrassment at what you are tolerating.
3. You feel as if you simply cannot live without this person, regardless of the way you're treated. Arguments might be dropped, and ultimatums left to slide. Fears over going it alone emotionally might be so overpowering that you are willing to compromise your values and expectations simply to avoid the end of the relationship.
4. You have worry over what your partner might do to him or herself if you leave the relationship, and take on the responsibility of "saving" him or her. You fear he or she will never make it without you, and the guilt of this belief keeps you in the relationship.
By Shannon E Cook
Are you feeling that you are losing yourself in the relationship which you are in? Do you want to take control in the relationship and have some sense of identity and independence again? Are you with a man who is a little overbearing and are you needing to get control again? If so here are three steps which can put you back in the driver's seat...
First, you have to limit his access to you a little bit. Controlling people draw much of their power by being constantly in your life. This is not good even in a healthy relationship and it is going to cause you to resent the control which he has over you. Take some time for yourself, find a hobby or something and give yourself the space to evaluate your feelings for him.
Second, take some responsibility away from him. If you are in a controlling relationship it is partly because you have gotten used to making someone else responsible for you. Make it a habit to start making decision which you would normally defer to him. This means no more "Whatever you want to do". You are not being considerate when you do this. You are handing him too much control.
Third, develop a few boundary statements for both yourself and him. In other words, you may have to verbally remind him what is your choice and responsibility and what is his. Not because he does not know already, but because you have let the relationship become about him and not about both of you. Take responsibility for where you have given him too much control and start working on respectful but firm ways to remind him of where his boundaries are.
Finally, exercise your no muscle. In fact, you may have to do this in your other relationships as well. Why? Because if you are in a romantic relationship where you are losing control chances are you have at least a few other relationships which are the same way. Take control of your relationships by taking control of all of them and developing the habit of being in charge of your life.
By Tina L. Jones
When you turn the keys of Mind Freedom, you unlock the potential for a truly satisfying union. By paying positive attention to your relationship, focusing on the qualities you want it to exhibit and seeing your part in its evolution, you can break free from limited societal models and forge a bond that is your own creation, uniquely and satisfyingly yours.
Use your Mind Freedom to help transform some of the common relationship fallacies that you are subtly and overtly bombarded with everyday.
Transform: One partner is responsible for taking care of the relationship, and the other is responsible for finance and practicalities of the world.
Into: Both partners share responsibility for their relationship success and for worldly necessities.
Transform: A relationship is such a basic thing that I should know how to do it--there's something wrong with me/you if we don't know how.
Into: Nobody starts out knowing how to do a relationship; it requires lifelong learning.
Transform: A satisfying relationship is based on the right characteristics of the partners.
Into: A satisfying relationship is based on the qualities of the relationship itself which we are equally responsible for creating together.
Transform: Commitment to a relationship means the end of freedom.
Into: Commitment to a relationship provides me with an opportunity to heal myself and thus become truly free.
When you make choices with attention, intention, and awareness, you will discover that your creativity knows no bounds. Reach for your dream and you will unleash resources you did not know you had. In response to the challenge of manifesting your choices, you will develop your knowledge and skill, you will soar beyond all previous limits, and you will unlock the power of synchronicity whereby the Universe and God come to your assistance in astonishing ways. You can have all that you want--true happiness, material abundance, vibrant health, and enduring love.
By Al Link and Pala Copeland
In a healthy relationship, there will be an equal amount of give and take. Both parties will give and receive roughly the same amount of value. Unfortunately, it's very common to encounter a person who is at an extreme side of give and take, yourself included.
Your success in a relationship relies on finding people who maintain an equal ratio of give and take. If you find yourself giving too much value and receiving none, you will feel used and be unhappy for getting nothing in return. If you take more value than you give, you will quickly find that nobody wants to be around you; you will have become a leech.
Now, value itself can be anything. Humor, fun, a car, coolness, support, as long as it's something somebody else wants to have around them. The important thing I've found in having good, fun relationships is not the amount of value you give, but having a balance of giving and taking. Remember this, it's about maintaining the ratio.
The Giving Side:
When you're with people, you have to bring value to the table. The problem is that there is no quantifiable thing called 'value' that you can buy at the corner market. What is considered value is different for each person, and the type of value you bring will determine what sort of people are attracted to you. If you're a frat party guy who can bring lots of beer to a party, it's not hard to imagine the types of people who would want to be with you.
If you're a taker who doesn't know how to give, you need to either take less or learn to provide more value. Giving more value is sometimes obvious; offer to help people out, organize things to do, tell awesome stories or jokes. However, it doesn't have to be something as obvious as these. You can provide value just by being a good guy. This means being positive, having a sense of humor, not getting angry over little things, or even just being somebody to text message with when bored.
I had a friend in English class once. We were friends because we would often text each other while trying to write the long essays required for the class. It was a fun distraction. Another friend of mine likes to be with me because I comforted her when she was worried about finding a career and job.
If you want more specifics on how to be a valuable person, read my site!
The Taking Side:
In order for a relationship to to remain balanced, you must also take value. I've read plenty of literature on building relationships that suggest you give value. But rarely is the equally important side of taking value talked about. Your own personal happiness is one reason, another is that it can make the other person feel uncomfortable because they can think they're taking too much from you. Learn to either demand value to match your own, or to accept it when offered.
I recently realized how I was the type who gave too much, prompting me to write this entry. I, like a lot of other people, fall into the trap of always helping people out for nothing in return. A girl I know has been wanting to hang out with me a lot recently, in a non romantic sort of way. You see, I have a car and she doesn't. Today I drove her to the library, practically wrote an entire resume for her, and drove her back. I realized on the way to drop her off while she was on the phone that I wasn't happy. I wasn't getting anything anything in return except for the offer of gas money.
To me, gas money has little value compared with hanging out with a funny person who likes to do fun things. To her, however, having a friend who drives you to places has a lot of value. The ratio is off and I am unhappy because the value she brought was not something I wanted.
I used to be so starving for any kind of friendship, I wouldn't think anything about receiving value in relationships. When you'll take anything and everything, you will probably boost your amount of friends. But you have to consider the quality of the friendships. Is it really worth it to have a lot of crappy friends? Or maybe it's better to have a smaller group of friends you really enjoy hanging out with?
(Saving yourself from this situation requires a bit of coldness. Either flat out tell them you don't like being with them or avoid them.)
By Alex Elkholy
When you date someone through Internet it is generally known as online dating. Here, single individuals make contact with another individual over the internet with the aim of initiating personal, social, or romantic relationship.
Your Internet dating sites make it possible for you to meet hundreds of people around the globe who are keen to meet someone they can relate to. It requires little effort and the advantages are many. You are saved from the embarrassing situation of approaching someone and getting rejected.
The risk of getting rejected or not finding anyone to match your profile is practically nil on online dating. That is simply because you get to meet so many people whom you couldn't have met in real life.
Many times you go out on a date and spend good amount of money and time which you save in dating online. With free online dating service you interact with the person for quite sometime before you meet him or her personally. It is fun and it is safe.
You can also stop interacting with someone if you are not comfortable and you will face no problem or security threat as long as you do not provide personal information.
With free online dating you have the advantage of being extra careful about people with whom you want to interact and continue or discontinue the relationship. If you are a busy person and have no time to go out and meet people online dating could be the only solution.
Once you have registered with a free dating site, it will edit your profile and get you listed immediately. It will keep your information absolutely private so there is no risk of receiving strange phone calls or spammy mails.
Many sites will match your profile with other profiles from the opposite sex and find possible matches for you. It is quite possible that you may find your true love here. You can also get features like chat, e-mail, forums, photos, sending e-cards etc., absolutely free.
An introvert person, who finds it difficult to make friends or approach other people easily, online dating can be the best option for him/her. More and more people are going in for free online dating.
The time and money saved on these dates are something which cannot be overlooked. Once you are comfortable with a person you may find that he or she is the one you have been waiting for all through your life.
By Paul Bryan
Here's a situation I'm sure you've probably been in...
You meet a great girl, and you are instantly attracted to her. So you try to get to know her and start spending a lot of time with her. You really want to become closer, but unfortunately, she says those dreaded words: "Let's just be friends."
Ugh.
Many a man has felt attraction toward a girl but didn't know how to proceed because it had already been established that he and she were "just friends." And as anyone who's been in that situation can tell you - when that happens, you have NO IDEA how to change it!
Most guys out there have been in a similar plight (at least I know I have!). Several years ago, however, I discovered a secret largely unknown by most men. I realized the mistake most guys make is in thinking they have to coax a woman they are friends with into seeing them as a potential boyfriend before making a move on her.
Think of the guy, for example, who attentively watches and listens as his "gal pal" wails over her current love life, and then assures her that he'd make a better boyfriend than her current one.
Or, to take another example, think of the guy who's been friends with a woman for years and finally gets up the gall to tell her his true feelings. Both of these are very common cases - and both of them are the WORST possible things you could do to if you actually want to get a result!
Why are both of these avenues so bad?
Because they're incongruent with the pre-established "Just Be Friends" condition that has been imposed on the relationship! You just can't change a girl's mind about being "just friends" through logic or melodramatic emotional confessions. It just doesn't work that way.
But here's where things take a bizarre turn for the better.
Many women have no qualms about sleeping with their guy friends. To many of these women, sleeping with a guy is less of a big deal than dating or becoming his girlfriend! (Strange, but true.) Understand - women have needs too. Even women who explicitly tell you that they are only open to having a platonic relationship are probably more willing to go to bed with you than you think.
I should know. Most of the women I've been friends with whom explicitly stated that our relationship was strictly platonic, I ended up sleeping with.
When women tell men that they only want to be friends, most men feel a bit disappointed - and women pick up on this. And that creates a tension that ruins the friendship and puts her on guard when she's around. When women say this to me, I always look relieved as I utter, "Thank God... I'm glad you realize that you don't have a chance with me."
Now, this is a funny way of diffusing the situation, but it's also a way of setting the proper frame that you're the one in charge of choosing who gets to sleep with who. See, the key to turning that "gal pal" into a full-blown "lady love" is to generate arousal with her, and then compel her to ACT on that arousal.
Don't in any way, shape or form try to persuade a woman you're friends with into dating you or considering you as her boyfriend. This may seem logical, but it is counter productive! Try to become as attractive as possible to her by having fun, and flirting! Clean yourself up and make her rethink how she sees you. If you can fire up some intrigue within her, things will start to move down the path you want!
Understand - women are emotional creatures. If you want to change their behavior, you have to change the emotions they experience.
By Joseph Matthews
Its no secret that there are glaring differences between men and women. But the most important difference is how men and women think and perceive the world around them.
Men are much more logical when it comes to their world-view. They tend to see things in black and white - a very pragmatic outlook. Logic plays a big part in how many men make their decisions, even if they consider themselves "dreamers" or the "creative types."
In contrast, women are much more emotional. They tend to give into their emotions and allow them to guide their decision making process. That's not to say, of course, that girls can't be logical, but when their emotions are telling them to do something, they are much more inclined to "go with their gut."
Indeed - this is how nature intended things to be. If women were ruled by logic, they would have a hard time caring for their children, since women have to be empathetic to their baby's needs.
By the same token, nature intended men to be logical, since this is the best way for men to protect and provide for their families.
Unfortuneately, though these differences serve a purpose, they also make it more difficult for the two sexes to really understand each other.
Because men are logical, they just assume women think the same way they do! After all, everyone always thinks others - no matter how different they may be - perceives the world in the same way they do.
But this just isn't the case. Because men are logical in nature, they will try and force that logic onto the women they like - usually with poor results.
Take for instance, the notion of the "Pity Kiss."
This is one of those things that girls talk about with each other, and guys have no idea exists. And it all stems from the differences between the logic and the emotional.
For example, let's imagine a guy and a girl are out together, and the poor guy completely mis-understands the situation. Its obvious to everyone but him that the girl is not attracted to him, yet he is oblivious to this notion and tries to kiss her.
Naturally, the girl will try and politely keep from having to go through with the kiss. When this happens, the guy's logic center will kick in, and he will try to convince the girl to kiss him!
You'll hear lines like:
"Wow, I thought you liked me. I thought you were different from all the other girls, but I guess I was wrong about you."
"Why don't you want to kiss me? Are you just using me? We're such a good fit!"
"This never happens to me. Why did you go out with me if you don't like me?"
Obviously, there's a million of these types of arguments, and usually the guys will keep at it until the girl caves in and kisses him.
But this is actually the WORST thing that could happen!
The guy may think he's won because he got the kiss, but in reality, he's lost, because the woman gave him a "Pity Kiss" just to shut him up and get away from him without coming off as mean. Now, the woman feels like she was guilted into kissing him, and she'll harbor resentment over it.
This is the type of stuff women will talk about at length to their friends, and NEVER bring up to a guy they like.
But it's important for men to know about the things women talk about - because the best way to attract a woman is to UNDERSTAND how they operate.
And they operate on EMOTION.
In order to really connect with a woman, a man has got to learn to appeal to her emotions and not her logic.
You have to understand that if a woman doesn't want to kiss you - even if you are a great guy and would logically make a great match - it's because you haven't made her experience the emotions she needs to feel to actually WANT to kiss you.
It's this reliance on logic and the ignoring of emotion that is the number one reason why so many guys get rejected by girls!
And women will complain: "What's wrong with men? Why don't they understand how to make us happy?"
The simple fact is this: emotions will always rule when it comes to love. This is the secret girls know that guys don't. And the guy that understands this secret, is the guy who will inevitably get the girl.
By Joseph Matthews
Have you tried, or considered, Speed Dating, or any of the other versions out there? You might think the whole thing is ridiculous, but believe it or not, it's a lot of fun. I had thoughts of the scene in 40 Year Old Virgin in my head, but truth be told, it was nothing like that. Lucky for you, I have some tips that will help you in your endeavors.
First things first, let's talk about what you do BEFORE you go. I think it goes without saying that hygiene is the first thing you should take care of. This will be scrutinized even more than in a normal situation, so take care of this.
Clean yourself up, trim your nails neat, clip that nose hair. But once it is done, when you are ready to walk out that door, be DONE with it, save for a pack of mints for the dating itself.
The same thing goes for your clothing. Clean obviously, but dress to impress. I wouldn't go too showy, just make yourself look good. Polish your shoes, hit the jacket with the lint brush, and take care of any details.
Another thing to do is practice before you go. Not just some lines, or routines, but spontaneity. How does one practice that? By saying what immediately comes to mind when having a conversation. That sounds crazy, I know, but practice with a friend. The result is that you sound more genuine. Put in a bit of time with this, it'll help.
I tried something new lately - using the first date to warm up. Luckily, she wasn't beautiful, and it allowed me to make as many mistakes as necessary to get in a groove. The rest of the evening got much easier. I also found it was great, because I tried it when I was out of town, and it allowed me to get a feel for the women in a new area. I went to an 8 Minute Dating in Edmonton while out on business, and landed a really easy date with a beautiful woman.
Make sure to bring a lot of positive energy to the table with you. Really amp it up. It's infectious and you'll make a wonderful impression. People will remember you if they enjoyed your company.
When you do that, you'll also be able to take advantage of the other guy's mistakes. Trust me, they'll make a lot. The biggest is being uptight and nervous. If you can avoid that, you'll look like a million bucks after they've dealt with some nervous, twitchy, uncomfortable guy. It helps when you smile while doing this, and relax. You'll allow them to do the same, and fun will happen!
During the conversation, you'll do far better if you show genuine interest in them, but as well, be ready to carry the conversation when they ask you a question. A good conversation should be back and forth, and neither side should feel drilled.
Also, make sure not to drink too much. This will blow your chances faster than anything. If they wanted a drunk guy, they'd hit a slum bar and do just fine. Don't be that guy.
When the time is about to run out, and you are having fun, go ahead and "close" with her. Let her know you had a great time, and that you'd love to continue the conversation. If she appears to be having fun, it should be very easy to get the next date with her.
When Speed Dating, it's all about making that great impression in a short time, and allowing fun to happen, no matter how brief it is. Work with what I've given you here and you should do very well.
By Joseph Matthews
Now that you've scored that date with that hottie that you've been lusting after, do you know how to kiss him? Have you always wondered whether you're a good kisser or not? Are you nervous as to who should initiate the kiss first on your date? Getting the guy of your dreams to ask you out is one thing, but this doesn't mean that you have already sealed the deal. When to kiss him is one of the conflicts that you might find yourself running into in your date. Read this article so you can be prepared and won't have to deal with those awkward moments.
Give time for build-up
Nowadays, there is really nothing wrong when a girl initiates the kiss. After all, this is no longer the time of Scarlett O' Hara and Rhett Butler when a lady has to act all prim and proper at all times. Today, girls can control how the relationship progresses just as guys can. However, it's always good to let some tension build up between the two of you first. Remember how that slice of chocolate cake tasted like after days and days of anticipation? The same goes with the first kiss. The longer the two of you wait, the more exciting that first smooch will become.
Let him make the first move
Even if you're aching to kiss those lips of his, it's still best if he makes the first move. Sure, there's no problem if you make the first move to kiss him, but it's good to remember that guys love a challenge. If you give him the idea that he might not be able to kiss you, then the more he will try to lock lips with you.
Make him wait
When it's the right time to kiss him, you will know. Just don't do it too soon. The longer he has to wait, the more he will anticipate your kiss and the more memorable that kiss will become.
By Tina L. Jones
Do you want to know how to get a boyfriend by the end of this week? Are you dreading the coming weekend because you know you will spend another date night at home, feeding your cats and watching TV? Are you tired of going on first dates that ultimately lead to nothing? If you sadly answered yes to these questions then you are among the many women around the world who are fearing growing into old maids. If you are tired of seeing other girls having a fun with their boyfriends, you need to learn how to get a boyfriend and this article will teach you just that.
Be approachable
Despite their bravado and incessant bragging, guys are actually afraid of being rejected. If they know that there's a good chance that they might be turned down, they won't ask the girl out at all. You can use this knowledge to your advantage. As much as you can, try to project a friendly and approachable vibe. This doesn't mean that you have to get chummy with everyone you see. It can be as simple as wearing a smile most of the time.
Classy is sexy
Dressing is also an important factor when it comes to learning how to get a boyfriend. Choose an outfit that best flatters your figure. When picking an ensemble, remember that you are projecting a classy vibe, not a slutty one. So if you're going with a low-cut blouse, make sure that it covers your arms. When wearing a miniskirt, try to wear wedges or flats instead of high high heels.
Show off your personality
If you really want to learn how to get a boyfriend in a week, you have to make sure that you work on your personality. Once he asks you out, it's your personality that will shine through and not the glittery eyeshadow you're wearing.
By Tina L. Jones
Are you currently seeing a guy and would like to know if he wants a relationship? Are you getting confused by the mixed signals that he's sending? Do you want to know what the real deal is between the two of you so you can know what to expect from your relationship? If you answered yes to these questions, then you are only one of the many women who toss and turn at night wondering if the guy they're dating wants to take the relationship to the next level or just leave it on a casual stage. Read on for some tips to help you tell if he wants a relationship.
Girlfriend or friend with benefits?
If your relationship started out on a friends-with-benefits stage, then chances are slim that you two could move on to an actual serious relationship. Although this transition is not unheard of. However, if you want to turn that friend-with-benefit into a potential boyfriend, then you need to show him that your intentions go way beyond the bedroom. Stop responding when he makes booty calls late at night. Instead, suggest real dates that you two can actually go on and talk. If he shows no interest for platonic activities, then it's a clear sign that he's not into a relationship with you.
Who you gonna call?
Another sign that will tell you if he wants a relationship is if he's doing most of the calling. If he's the one who always contact you and not the other way around then there's a chance that he might be interested.
In the flesh
The final sign that he wants a relationship is if he asks you out and wants to see you in person. However, if he insists on just talking on the phone or chatting online, then this is a sure signal that he's just keeping you on the side.
By Tina L. Jones
Have you been seeing a guy pretty steadily and would like to know if he wants you to be his girlfriend? Has he been expressing romantic interest towards you but never really made the move to establish that the two of you are a couple? Have you been tossing and turning at night wondering about what his true intentions are? Whether you have gone on a couple of dates or just hang out in the same clique, there are several things that can tell you if he wants you to be his girlfriend. Read on and find out.
Doing research
If a guy wants to be more than friends, he would usually try to learn as much about you as he can. This means asking your friends and colleagues questions about you. If he's really interested, don't be surprised if he asks your best friend how long has it been since your last boyfriend, or your cousin about the type of food you like. This means he's already interested in you and just trying to learn more to confirm his decision.
Flirt alert
Another clear sign that he wants you to be his girlfriend is when he flirts with you. If you're not exactly an expert on flirting, try to look for the less obvious signs like touching you lightly during conversation, putting his arm around you when crossing the street, etc. Guys flirt in different ways so it's best to observe his behavior closely.
Quality time
If he's going to parties because he knows you're going to be there, or invites you to events that he's going to, then you can almost bet that he wants you to be his girlfriend. The most simple indication that he's into you is if he constantly looks for reasons to spend more time with you.
By Tina L. Jones
Do you know what to do to get a guy to ask you out? Have you been crushing on a guy for the longest time and just waiting for the opportunity to get to know him better? Are you tired of sitting at home every weekend and eating take-out food by yourself? If you answered yes to these questions, then you are not alone! Many women complain of an uneventful love life. The good news is: you can change all of that starting today! Read on and learn how you can get a guy to ask you out.
Smile!
Event though it's such a simple thing that should be able to come naturally, many women actually forget the power of smiling. When you smile, it automatically makes you look more attractive and gives you more confidence. Not only that, but it also sends out a friendly and approachable vibe-which is crucial if you want to get a guy to ask you out.
Look him in the eye
Eye contact can also be a powerful thing if you are trying to score a date with that hottie. Guys are actually afraid of rejection and this prevents them from asking girls out on dates. So it's not because he's not interested, it may be because he fears you might reject him. Establishing eye contact allows you to be subtly inviting. When talking to him or even sitting with a group of people, try to tantalize him with your pretty peepers. However, don't stare at him incessantly or you might just end up creeping him out.
Dial it down
Guys can easily detect desperation so if you want to get a guy to ask you out, be sure that you don't send out a trying-too-hard aura. For instance, don't wear an ultra short miniskirt and strut in front of him five times. Remember, let him come to you.
By Tina L. Jones
There is a lot more to asking a girl out than just enjoying yourself. Remember the girl is important and satisfying her should be your aim. When she is happy it will show and that joy will spill over and touch you too. It is time to throw away all selfish attitudes and concentrate on guaranteeing a great time for your date.
Choose a beautiful romantic spot. Any girl would like to be wooed in a romantic ambiance. A candlelight dinner with soft music in the background would help put your date in a mellow mood. Taking your girl out on an expensive dinner date will make her feel pampered and special. You don't have to do that if you can't really afford an expensive dinner - all you have to do is make up for it by taking her to a place that is different and exciting - like to the lakeside or a picnic to the beach! As long as you give her all the attention she needs - she'll adore you!
If you surprise her with a little gift or memento to remember the occasion - it will make her ecstatic! Not only will she treasure the gift but it will make her feel loved and cherished and it will make her realize that you are caring and sensitive.
Have an intelligent conversation with her, making sure there are no awkward silences or gaps which may embarrass both of you. You could spice up the evening by dedicating a special love song just for her. This will be a sign that you are ready to proclaim your feelings for her openly!
Be prepared to listen to her without interrupting. Her views are also important and she will feel that you are being sensitive to her feelings.
Take utmost care not to be brash or boorish and you can be sure that your dates would be satisfying for both of you!
By Rahul Talwar
Let's talk about perfect tens. You know those women who feel like they can just walk inside a room and have all men drooling? These women are a different breed. They know they have what it takes to make men fall in love quickly and they have the personality to wow anyone they meet. Having said this, you must be wondering what it takes to date this type of woman. Can an average guy date a perfect ten?
The answer is YES. Sure, the 'usual' pick up lines won't work on these women, but there are some methods you can use to turn a perfect ten into your girlfriend. You see, she may act and talk like she's totally out of your league; but the truth is, she's still a woman. She responds to emotional motivation, and she is vulnerable to romantic gestures just like any other girl.
If you can use these 3 secrets to massive success with women out of your league, you can date a perfect ten easily and without much worry.
1. Understand that all women are sensitive. Women's idea of quality differs greatly from men's. Despite the stereotypes, women judge men by their character not by appearance. As long as you give the vibe that you're highly confident and extremely passionate about life, you can make women think you're the best guy to date.
2. Carry yourself well. Instantly trigger attraction by showing high value. Be presentable and always remember that women are looking at you and observing your behavior. Smile often and exchange playful banter with friends to make women think you're someone who can socialize with people. Women love men who can adapt to any situation with finesse and civility. Spruce up your conversation skills and always be in the mood for some fun when a girl is around.
3. Spellbinding Conversation. A woman will respond well to you if you keep her rapt using your unique brand of conversation. There's a magnetic way of talking to women (particularly the beautiful ones who seem aloof to regular Joes), and you will learn this fast by discovering the principles of hypnosis and fractionation. Using fractionation, master seducers have been known to be able to attract women and make them fall madly in love very quickly - often in the manner of 15 minutes or even less. It is very effective, but highly controversial at the same time. Killer stuff indeed!
By Derek Rake
So you've been seeing the same girl for several months, and things are great. The only problem is that you two have fallen into the dinner-and-a-movie rut, and you're desperate to get out.
Fortunately, it's easier than you may think to impress your date. The following are some fun activities for couples. Suggest a few to your special someone, and watch her eyes light up!
Dancing
Grab a few drinks and hit the dance floor! Dancing is ideal, because it thrives on physical contact. Being close to each other will only increase your chances at seduction, making for an incredible end to an incredible night.
Concerts and Sporting Events
How can you two not get excited when hearing that roar of the crowd? Concerts and sporting events are a great dating environment. Not only do they lend themselves to excellent conversation, but you've got the energy of other people to feed off of.
Exercise
It's no secret that exercising releases endorphins, feel-good hormones within the body. If you two are into physical fitness, why not go for a jog together? Shoot a light-hearted game of hoops, or hit the hiking trail. The fresh air and physical release will make you feel good all over.
Get Schooled
Are you both terrible chefs? Why not take a culinary class together? Check your city listings for classes on every topic, most of which are free or at a reasonable price. The learning experience will expand both your mind and relationship.
Final Thoughts
As you can see, there's a world beyond dinner-and-a-movie, and tapping into it is a surefire way to impress your date. The key is to make sure the activity interests both of you. Continue thinking of new and unique things to do together, and your romance will never lose its spark.
By Zack Abraham
Have you ever wondered why it is that men tend to chase some women like crazy while, other, more attractive women are left behind?
You don't have to be a beauty to keep a man interested - you just have to offer him a challenge. Take the following steps to make a guy chase you like crazy.
#1 - Play hard to get
In the beginning of a relationship, don't make it too easy for the man. Most men love a challenge in business or in sports and games, so why wouldn't they respond to a challenge in love? Once a man has shown an interest in you, it's a good idea to make him work a little at attracting your interest. You need to know when to give in, though, and make yourself available. Men also like to win!
#2 - Expect him to do some of the work
In most relationships, women fall all over themselves to please their men, while the men just expect to be pleased. While of course you should do your best to please him, you should also expect him to please you. And don't be too easy to please. If he knows he doesn't have to exert much effort to keep you interested, there's no challenge in it. Let him know he needs to work as hard at making the relationship work as you do.
You don't need to be a beauty in order to entice a man to chase after you. All you need is a little ingenuity to keep reminding him that you are the most exciting, attractive woman he ever met. That's how to make a man chase you like crazy.
By Tina L. Jones
Online dating has become a popular way to meet new people - whether you become friends or even if you become lovers. It is exciting and challenging, but could also be dangerous. Here are a few safety tips for when you go on a date for the first (or first few) times with a stranger:
1. Always choose your location wisely. Make sure you are at a public place where there is a decent crowd and never, ever let a man pick you up at home. He doesn't need to know your address until you feel comfortable with him.
2. Lunch is better than dinner. When you meet a new man for the first time, it is best to arrange a lunch meeting. This way it is easy to leave within an hour or two, should you feel uncomfortable in his presence. It is also easier to avoid alcohol, which should definitely be avoided on a first meeting.
3. Offer to pay half the bill. Even if it is very romantic or considered gentlemen style to pay the bill, some met might expect something in return. So on the first date, make sure you take your wallet too!
4. When meeting a stranger for the first time, make sure you have easy access to your car or at least to the exit of the restaurant/coffee shop. If you feel uncomfortable, you should be able to get up and leave easily. You don't want to feel trapped or helpless.
5. Don't give your home number on a first date. Even if you have a good feeling about the guy, it's best to give your cell number rather than your home number. Home numbers can be traced, so if he turns out to be someone that you don't want to see again, you don't want him knocking on your door. It is your right to decide if and when you want to give him your number. If you don't want him to reach you again, don't give your number.
6. Always carry a cell phone with you. Because there are some risks involved in online dating, always have a backup plan. It is wise to ask a friend to phone you in one or two hours' time after your date. This way, it is easy to both make an excuse and escape, or just to make sure you are alright. Always tell at least one other person where you are going and when you will be home.
Online dating should be an adventure and it is an exciting new journey, but safety should always come first. Trust your instinct and make sure you are always in a safe place. Keep your address a secret until you have come to know the person and feel comfortable with him visiting you at home. If you follow these simple safety tips, you can now sit back and enjoy finding the love of your life.
By S. Burton
A lot of women fall for the tall, dark, and handsome type - tall being the operative word. So what do you do when you're, well...short?
The problem most short guys have with women is not their height...it's the impact that their height has on their confidence.
They doubt their attractiveness, and as a result, they don't attract women. While stronger self esteem takes time to develop, there are a few seduction tips short men can take to help in the meanwhile.
Create an optical illusion.
Buy a pair of boots to add some height to your frame. When it comes to clothes, choose tighter shirts with vertical stripes. The up and down design will trick the eye into making you look taller.
Hit the gym.
Not only is exercise good for you, but it can also increase your self esteem. Having a stronger frame is just another way of making you more attractive.
Get an attitude.
While you don't want to be a jerk, stop being a doormat. Don't go to great lengths to please others. If you don't agree with them, speak your mind. If you've got other plans, don't break them to accommodate someone else.
Just being a little more assertive in your life, knowing that you are not in this world just to please others. Women love men who know what they want, no matter how tall they are.
Be confident.
Women don't like tall guys because they're tall; they like tall guys because they don't have any hang-ups about their height. The fact that you're not tall doesn't mean you're not worthwhile, so work on your confidence.
Final Thoughts
By following these seduction tips for short guys, you'll be well on your way to attracting women. Don't allow stature to run your life. Having confidence, looking your best, and knowing yourself can take you to new "heights" in your love life!
By Zack Abraham
When looking to date an executive, keep in mind that most executives are not joining traditional on line dating sites. You likely will not find many eligible executives listed on those sites. However, there are dating sites that actually cater to executives that you can join and get that date.
The interesting thing about on line executive dating services is many executives are not really looking to date another executive. Many are primarily looking for someone to go to dinner with, maybe a take in a show or have a night out on the town just for some fun and relaxation. Demands inherent in the executive world can be very stressful and a date with someone who is not a fellow executive is preferable because it eliminates "shop talk" and focuses on just having fun.
That said, it does help your chances of getting a date if you are a professional person who can match up as far as education and intellect. You should not be in the same profession, however, just to make it interesting for both of you. For example, a Wall Street type might fit well with a professional concert musician or photographer.
Executive online dating sites operate much the same as mainstream online dating sites. You will be required to create a personal profile. You should keep your profile real and honest. Honestly share your likes, dislikes, education, and so forth so a potential date can decide whether to pursue you further. Post aprofessional head shot and perhaps some photos of you having fun doing your favorite things.
Executive online dating sites, like traditional sites, allow members to view the profiles of potential partners easily. This allows you to search for a particular type of executive you hope will be your perfect date. You can search the database using a wide range of criteria to narrow the field.
Of course, it is not unusual for some executives to be seeking a marriage partner. Executive dating sites are an easy way to narrow the selection of potential mates. If finding a marriage partner is your goal, you may want to state that fact in your profile. Don't hide the fact. It will eliminate prospects who are only interested in a one shot relationship.
Another aspect of executive online dating sites, that is quite popular, is the ability to meet other executives with similar business interests or hobbies. This can lead to joint business ventures or just simple friendships which can broaden experiences and knowledge of shared hobbies. Using an executive dating site does not have to be only about dating or marriage.
As with all online dating services, caution is strongly advised, especially if you are seeking to date an executive with a highly visible position in their company. Most executives are careful whom they choose to date to be sure they will not jeapordize their company or put themselves in a compromising position. This is another reason to choose someone who is not in your profession. It eliminates conflicts and doubt. Executives are aware that it is not unusual for competitors to troll executive dating sites looking for an advantage.
While executive dating sites were established to cater primarily to the time and schedule constraints of busy executives, executives are not 100% immune to persons who might try and exploit them financially. This is why it is a good idea to use mainly executive online dating sites with an established reputation rather than newer sites. Of course, if you find a site that has good testimonials from other members, sign up and check it out to see if it fits.
When evaluating which site to join, review the number of executive listings. Look over some member profiles, if they allow it. The more executives listed, the better chance you will have of finding someone in their database that matches you.
Another way to check out potential executive dating sites is to simply do an Internet search for "reviews". Use the name of the site and the word "reviews". You will likely find comments from folks who either like or dislike the particular site and their reasons. You may also find reviews by people who are experts at evaluating such sites. However, make sure the reviews are not pushing a particular site. The review writer may be getting a commission if you sign up through their review.
How much are membership fees?
Well, the best executive dating sites do charge a membership fee and will require that you fill out an application form of some kind, perhaps, even require that you answer survey questions to be sure your motives are honorable. That said, you will find the cost very reasonable for the value they provide.
Some sites have various plans from which to choose and they are priced accordingly. To get a feel for the whole on line dating process, look for free on line dating sites and those that offer a free trial period before you actually commit to a membership fee.
Many people have found companionship, love, and marriage through online executive dating sites. So, go ahead and give it a chance. You just might become one of the success stories.
By Jim DeSantis
Everyone has an opinion about how the first date should go. A proof of this is the plethora of dating rules and first date etiquette tips that abound online. Some of the more common ones include not kissing on the first date, and not going beyond third base.
If you're stuck thinking of ways to make your first date spectacular without offending your date with brash behavior, read on to discover three first date etiquette tips that will spell the difference between a lousy first date and a memorable one.
1. Lead up to the kiss, but don't expect a torrid one.
A first date is all about building rapport and promising each other that there will be many more fun times. A kiss should naturally result from this rapport build-up and should not be forced.
The problem starts when one or both take the 'no kissing on the first date' rule too seriously. Granted, the kiss that results from your new awareness of each other is more likely to be a gentle romantic one than a torrid one, but it's still a kiss. Let your closeness grow throughout the date. Then, when your eyes meet and you feel like something's going to give if you don't do something soon, go for the kiss.
2. Read and respond to her body language.
Sometimes, women say things to cover up their shyness; some may even say things to prove their dominance. If you plan on interacting with women regularly, you should know that women can lie with words, but they cannot hide the way their body reacts to you.
For instance, you ask her if she likes you and she says no, observe the way she blushes. Look for redness on her ears and upper cheek, around the eye area. When you finally get what she's really telling you, you can prevent mishaps and untoward incidents (e.g. kissing her when she doesn't feel like it yet).
3. Leaning
Invading someone's personal space can be challenging. For this reason, you must learn how to lean before you hug. Leaning close to her without touching her directly will let you gauge her willingness to share her personal space with you. If she turns away, reserve the hug for later. If she responds and leans back, you can confidently hug her (and get hugged in return).
Only you can judge whether or not the many first date etiquette tips will work for you. Every girl is unique, and you might need to change things up a little to suit the personality of the girl you're with.
By Steve J. Scott
Why close your doors to other women when you're going out with a girl? Here's the real truth about dating: variety will make you less vulnerable to rejection. Let me start by saying this: men are wrong about monogamous dating. If you put all your eggs in one basket, there's a chance that you won't develop much as a player.
Have you ever heard of "diversification"? In dating, your choices are limitless and you will never get bored. If you diversify, you will be able to risk rejection more. The more women you open, the more you can afford to lose a few.
Here's a warning, if you're ready for a relationship, go ahead and be monogamous. The mistake is not monogamy, it's choosing to stay loyal to one girl when you know deep in your heart that you're not ready for commitment.
What are the traits you must have to successfully date many women?
1. Uninhibited.
If you think too much about the morality of the situation according to conventional standards, you will never develop your dating game. You must let go of your old beliefs and revamp your mindset drastically. Freedom from all the rules of society is a wonderful thing.
2. Unrepentant.
Some players feel remorse and sadness when they feel like they're playing with women's hearts. Let me share with you a crucial secret to being a player: this feeling of guilt only comes when you consciously make a woman believe that you're not a playboy. If you act all loyal and committed, she will feel cheated when she eventually learns the truth.
3. Adventurous.
Being adventurous means trying out various means of seducing women. If you stick to a lame old style that fails all the time, you will never be able to date several women at the same time. Remember to adapt your technique according to the personality of the woman you want to date. There is no cookie-cutter way to being an expert at making women fall in love, so you need to be brave enough to try new things.
With these three traits, you will be unstoppable when it comes to attracting women. To boost your seduction powers further, use this hypnosis technique called fractionation. Here's how to use this technique - bring the woman through an emotional rollercoaster in a conversation, and then at the same time 'anchor' her positive feelings to you. As a result, she will become emotionally attached to you.
Fractionation is known to make women fall in love in 15 minutes - or even less! Very controversial, but highly effective indeed.
By Derek Rake
Don't let your low self esteem and fear of rejection stop you from approaching the girl you've had your eye on for weeks! Brush your fears aside and walk up confidently to her. If you still feel too shy and tongue-tied and unable to gather up your courage to be successful, then maybe these tips will help you break the ice!
Get rid of those fears and the countless "what if's?" that plague your mind. Asking yourself the following questions: "What if she doesn't like me? What if she thinks I'm too fat? What if she already has a boyfriend?" is not going to help. Do not be worried about the outcome. Face the fact that there will be plenty of girls who are not going to be compatible or have anything in common with you. This will put you at ease and make you bold.
Don't look desperate and hound her for her telephone number. She will hate to cower down and give it to you. Be patient and casual. Make her feel that it is no big deal if she does not exchange numbers with you. Give her a chance to know you better.
You could be direct and honest with her. Let her look into those baby blues and see that you have no dark sinister motives! In fact if you could tell her that you would like to stay in touch and would she give you her number - you might just be surprised to find out that she will willingly do so!
Let her feel comfortable around you. You don't have to flatter or bribe her with compliments - she will know instinctively that you are not being true. You could give her your number and ask her to call you. If she likes you she will.
Don't let any rejection devastate you - taking things too seriously may have negative feedbacks and ramifications, and you don't want that. Be positive and open in your approach!
By Rahul Talwar
If you have been dating a particular girl for some time now, and have not passed the stage of just holding hands and an occasional hug, it could be that you are ready to move on to the next stage! If you are not sure as to whether your girl is ready to be kissed, the following tips should help you!
Never assume that your girl is ready for a deeper, closer contact with you. Read the signs and body language. Whether she is aware of it or not, she is sending you signals that you have to learn to read correctly. Watch her posture, facial expressions and her gestures.
If your girl leans towards you while talking, it may mean that she is ready to have bodily contact. Assuming that she is now comfortable in your company, and trusts you, it should not be surprising that she is willing to graduate to the "kissing" stage.
If your girl is always touching you, holding you, sitting close to you or even on your lap, hugs you intimately, and even gives you a peck on the cheek, all these are indications that she wants to go further. Try holding her close and kissing her back, and if she does not protest or tries to break away from your embrace, then of course she is ready!
Set the stage for your girl. It is obvious that you should not even try to kiss her in a place that will make her embarrassed and angry with you. Instead take her to a spot - a beautiful spot near the lake, or where the ambience will put her in the mood! Women like being taken to romantic spots and being wooed.
More often than not, women love men to disclose their feelings and fantasies. It makes them feel sexy and desirable. If you talk to her and let her know that you dream about those luscious lips, she'll pucker up for you!
By Rahul Talwar
You might be struck by the beauty of a particular girl at a party and might want to make a move towards talking to her.
If the girl too likes you then even if her mind and attitude initially indicate otherwise, her heart and her body are sure to indicate boldly that they like you.
Here are 4 tips on how to know if a girl likes you or not by her body language.
The 1st tip would be to slyly observe the girl from a distance. Is she also throwing casual glances towards you that seem to be stuck on you for a longer-than-usual time?
If so, then she too is pleased by what she sees and her heart and eyes might have already jumped over to your side.
The second tip would be to strike up a conversation with her, if possible by using the help of a common friend as that would build up the trust factor quickly.
Observe her body language whilst talking to her. If she fiddles with her hair, looks shyly at you and then gazes away and takes full interest in the conversation then her ears too are shouting out a huge 'yes'.
The 3rd tip will involve her entire body. If she leans towards you when you are talking to her and flips her hair behind her ear to offer it as a microphone then sing 'hallelujah'.
This move indicates that she would certainly like to know you better and her mind might now have been totally outnumbered by all her body parts clamoring to get near you.
The 4th tip would be to win her mind over as well. Use humor to good effect and watch if she laughs at your jokes.
If she laughs so much that her fingers need to hold on to your arms for support then she is totally into you, body, heart and mind.
So, simply use these 4 tips and read her body language accurately to find out if the girl that you like is ready to reciprocate your feelings in a positive manner.
By Rahul Talwar
Have you heard the latest? Probably, you do! Maybe you've got interested with online dating too. Well, its because of the fun being brought by it. This sounds great, right? However, there are things that you must watch over carefully once you decide to enter the exciting world of online dating.
Actually, there are only two important things that you must carefully watch over or take care of, if you join online dating. It's gonna be you and your personal computer. Why? You will be using a computer so it will be prone to virus or malwares as you go to the internet. This might interrupt you as you do your online search of love. That's why you have to use an anti-virus and guard your computer's firewall. Of course, you are going to protect yourself too by patronizing a good dating site that will help you search for online partner. Just like, when your friends trust Cebuanas.com or Africadarlings.com to help them find true love, then you can follow them. You only have to trust a dating site that have been trusted by people you know. At least you will be aware of terms and conditions of the site. You can be sure that it's a safe place.
Right now, you are ready to experience the successful online dating relationship. So let it grow by spending time with your mate. It will make the relationship flourish. You should remember that a good communication is the best ingredient of every relationship. In that way things will be okay for both of you. Respect for each other will help the online relationship grow healthy too. Until such time that you will decide that it will be the right time for meeting each other.
So let your online relationship grow healthy by nurturing it with good communication, respect, love and care.
By Cathy Erecre
So you want to date beautiful women but are not sure how to go about it? One option is to get a dating coach. But what kind of person is that exactly? This is the type of person who coaches people to improve their dating and relationship success.
When it comes to dating there are complex social cues and rules to follow. A good coach will help his client learn and decipher these cues leading to better success at attracting members of the opposite sex and finding a compatible mate. A good coach will focus on his client's confidence and congruency in communicating to the opposite sex.
Dating coaches cover a range of topics and skills to help their clients. Things like flirting, fashion, health, hobbies, interpersonal skills and basic psychology. Some coaches charge rates that are not unlike that of other counselors in non-dating professions, but seminars tend to be cheaper overall then one-on-one instruction.
Coaching can take place over a broad range of media. In addition to one-on-one coaching and seminars there are also electronic books, emails and online distance learning courses complete with forums on which clients can post their problems. One-on-one coaching can happen out at bars, clubs, and coffee shops; just about anywhere people are. You may also find yourself going out on a faux date with a coach of the opposite sex as part of the training. Clients can be critiqued on how the dress, touch the opposite sex, and how to better engage in interesting conversation. There are even coaches that specialize in the online dating scene. They help clients tailor eye-catching profiles and teach tactics on how to get conversations going online.
Many dating coaches now align themselves with commercial dating companies. Usually these companies will take a group of clients out in public to learn to interact better with the opposite sex. These types of seminars usually also have a class room component to them as well and sometimes even offer live fashion consultations.
Despite the proliferation of dating advice and companies that offer it, such coaching has still not made it into the mainstream. Many people who look into to coaching for their love lives point out that such coaching exists for other skills like playing an instrument. A counterargument is that dating is something a person should just learn as they grow up. Some would argue even if that were true what happens after you've been out of the dating scene for awhile, like after a divorce? In today's world with more and more women in successful careers, men can no longer rely on things such a simply having a great job to compensate for sex appeal and personal excitement.
Regardless of the arguments and stigma that may exist against the dating industry, dating coaches are here to stay. Many people turn to them and find it was well worth the investment to improve and restore choice to an area of their life they found to be almost hopeless.
By Jhon Hilman
It's an age-old question for women: What do men really want? If you can figure that out, you'll have him eating his heart out for you. Here are some secrets that will help you worm your way into the heart of that special guy.
#1 - Appeal to his basic instincts
Of course, physical attraction is the first step in getting him to fall for you. Men tend to operate on a fairly basic level when it comes to physical attraction, so you'll need to present yourself in a way that leads him to want to know more about you. You don't have to be beautiful - just dress and carry yourself in a way that will show off your best assets.
#2 - Put your best face forward
Even a woman who is less than gorgeous has some physical attributes that can be highlighted. Maybe you have beautiful legs or a tiny waist. Maybe your eyes are your best feature. Maybe it's your hair or your lips. Whatever it is, you need to take a good look at yourself and determine what you can do to emphasize the beautiful features you do have. Look at your wardrobe and decide which clothes are the most flattering. Learn to make up your face to bring out its most attractive features.
Once you have made yourself look as great as you can, your will be able to present yourself to the world (and to him) with renewed confidence.
#3 - Leave something to the imagination
After you've attracted his attention, you'll need to make him want to learn more about you. Don't reveal all in the beginning. Men love a challenge, so you'll want to make him work at learning more about you.
What men really want is a whole woman - attractive on the inside as well as on the outside.
By Tina L. Jones
